Guideline helping prevent suicide

To parents- we need to build a very healthy relationship with you, a relationship where by we talk about everything and be open and honest with each other we need to have that connection with you, whereby if there is something wrong with me you as a parent you can sense it and make sure that we deal with it positively. parents think that the only language that we understand as teens is the strong one, but that is the language that drives us to the edge. TALKING - talking to the child and being open with it not shouting can be the only life saving method that a parent can use to take out the suicidal thoughts from the child. It is not easy for parents to accept the fact that their children have reached the dating stage but it is here and happening what else can they do, than to sit with the child and talk with it instead of being the over protective parent why don't you try to be the understanding friend (with limits of-cos). -Sometimes we need just to get the thing that is killing us inside out of our chest but we lack people to talk to that is why we need the mother to try and work hand in hand with the child. Some families do not want to accept teen dating but what can they do it here and happening, instead of being angry and not paying attention to the stressed child try and talk with the child and make sure that, they know that there are limits, because you are now understanding and open to new things it doesn't mean, the parent will be the one that is stressed. working together as a family and talking can save so many teenagers from suicide. To teens- no one will ever love you more than your family does, your family will never cheat on you with their love, your family will never take advantage of the fact that you love them back. And no one will ever love you more than your own creator which is God, he would never protect you for nine months and the rest of the days that you wake up every morning and travel by any type of transport, and then fill happy when he sees you taking your own time after all the hard work he went through protecting you against every evil thing surrounding you. Why look for love that will make you happy for a short period of time and depressed for a long time.

Yes suicide is killing!!!!

Sakhisizwe Sinior Secondary School is a school located in Mdantsane in East London at nu 13. The grade 10,11,and 12s all agreed on the following, Us as teenagers we are selfish in so many different ways, we don't think before we do, we make promises that we all can not keep, and we end up committing a sin, we kill, Yes suicide is killing.. .... As much as we think that maybe as teenagers we can deal with everything "multitask" as it is called we get affected a lot by the stress that a relationship puts in, in your life. The problem is at first it may seem like it is all nice, you have this amazing person who tells you all the things that you WANT to hear so that all can be well, but now the problem is when the relationship is on its hot spot, now you both are stressed, both of you just cant deal with whatever is stressing you. Now the suicidal thoughts sink in, when you think about it, it sounds like it is the best way... is it? is it really.. You do not want to socialize you just want to be alone all the answers that you get will be all negative, as much as we think we are strong no we are not, when the going gets tough we just want the easy way out. Unathi Kolosa a Grade 12 student confessed on trying to commit suicide because of this beautiful girl that he loved, who disappointing him by cheating, he said "I took some pills hoping that they are going to end my life but it did not happen like that, Yes I did end up in hospital but it was nothing serious". Now the question that I have for those who try this is, is it really worth it?, the time now has passed, those who tried to commit suicide and did not manage to succeed see that, it was all not worth it, LIFE GOES ON.

Alive and happening

A research that I did at Sakhisizwe Senior Secondary School in Mdantsane nu13, showed me that suicide in early relationships is there and there are so many students who are affected by this. I had a talk with the grade 10,11, and 12, they all participated and gave me answers which were needed. In the grade 12 class I asked the students what is love it is amazing the answers that you get from high School students. Siphe Mxuku a grade 12 student said "love is supporting one another, encouraging each other, and helping each other with the problems that we deal with daily", I found this very powerful as I then asked is the love that we say we have to our boy/girlfriend this kind of love that Siphe has just described, another student Kolosa Unathi answered and said "when we first see a girl and claim that we are in love with them at first its not entirely true, at first we go there looking for something else which is sex, maybe after that then love grows". This is very true some teens after they have sex with the person that they claim to love they then see that NO this is not it, the dumping phase then enters that is when the teen thinks of suicide. The students were very open and honest telling me that that, they have tried to drink a lot of pills to try and end their lives, some say they took their fathers gun and tried to shoot themselves, some say they even tried to hang themselves but they couldn't get on with it. This is real teenage suicide is really alive and destroying our future. The Sakhisizwe research will continue on my next post.....

SIGNS OF SUICIDE

This part is a little hard to notice because sometimes parents are busy with their own priorities, things like cooking, cleaning, working, and this makes them unable to notice the changes on their children. once a child starts to want to be alone most of the time not communicating with friends or siblings then the problem has started, once teen is now not interested in things that used to excite them then the parents have to be worried. the thing is we as teens we have our own way of thinking, we do not think twice before we do we think and do. we sometimes really wish we could talk to someone and share the pain that we are filling but we can not we are afraid of so many things, afraid of being judged by friends, afraid of being shouted-at by parents especially when you have to talk about relationship problems.The warning signs will be clearly shown but no parent thinks that their children would do such a thing to their own selves. LOVE LOVE LOVE...... Is this love thing more important than your own life...think 5 years from now where will you be, will you still be with the person that you are now willing to give your own life up for?, or will have forgotten about this person and living happily with someones? Now is it really worth it.

Rate of suicide and suicide attempts increases tremendously during adolescence. These suicide attempts start at the age of 15-24 years old according to the Center for Disease Control and prevention (CDC). These suicide attempts increase when kids and teens have access to firearms at home; maybe one of the Parents is a Police officer. There is also a method that teens find easy to do which is overdosing with medicine or cutting themselves. On an article that is written on Kids Heath about teen suicide it is clearly stated there that suicide rates differ between boys and girls. Girls think about it and attempt suicide about twice as often as boys, and tend to attempt suicide by overdosing on drugs or cutting themselves. Yet boys die by suicide about four times as often girls. Girls give it all when it comes to relationships, as we all know that guys have a gift of knowing how to sweet talk a girl into saying yes to a relationships even though sometimes they know they are not in this for real, or for keeps. we fall deeply in love and not think of the what ifs. Parents may find it hard to accept the fact that we as young adults do things we get involved in those things that we are clearly told to run away from. The only way the parents can try to fight this is by putting your teen down talking with it in a non judgmental way because at the end of the day it is your son or daughter life that is in jeopardy, try to be open minded and put yourself in the teens shoes. You were once a teen and went through the same stages; you once did not listen and felt alone, felt like no one understands you and where you are coming from. Talking can cure and help prevent teen suicide

The most amazing thing that anyone longs for is that forever staying in your mind information, of knowing that you are loved, but we go to love or enter in relationships for the wrong reasons. We involve our selves because we are stressed out at school or at home and now we want a distraction to help us forget about all home issues and school issues. We think we know it all but do we? Do we really. Biblically speaking as a teenager you should not be involved in a relationship that will bind you and make you lose focus on God. Suicide is murder on the Ten Commandments that God set for us to help us live a pure and Godly Life, we are told there that Do not kill. Taking your life is breaking Gods rule. As a teenager already involved in this love saga you need to think twice before you do anything, yes it fills like it is taking up all your energy and you just want to run away from it, but what will happen after you die. You will die and never get to fill the cool breeze of the beautiful earth that we live in, you will not get to fill the hotness of the sun ever again, and the person that you took your life for is waking up every morning and living the perfect gift that go has given us all. IS IT REALY WERTH IT!!!!!

Life is an amazing gift that we all had the oppotunity to be given and live it up to the fullest, enjoying every minute of it. As a teenager living in this "BIG BAD WORLD" I see and experiance things that are amazing and shocking at the same time. Teen suicide coused by early relationships are there and happening in our lives, young people commite suicide coused by many reasons may be stress at home, school, and in early relationships. This starts when you say "YES" to this hot and sexy handsome person....Things go well the first few days are super amazing, everything is great calls every 20minutes sms after sms, and then life kicks in, you are very young and you still have alot to see but here you are commiting yourself to something very sensitive and delicate *LOVE*, just like every other relationship this one will be filled with stress, fights and dissapointments. At home your relationship with your parents has its own great deal amount of stress so what is stoping this one from having its own. Now the diffarence is the so called love life saga is much more stressing and mixing it with school work, home issues, changes in your life maybe your body and moods is realy not going to solve anything but still we do just that. Stress is one of the many reasons that couses suicide, you are stressed and you are filling alone because you do not want to share your love problems with anyone and now the suicidal thoughts start.

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